So, I’ll just admit it. I’ve got the baby-fever. A few months ago, I was still thinking “Another might be nice. We’ll wait a few months and see. No rush, of course.”
But sometime over the last few weeks, it hit me hard. I want another kid and I’m ready to be pregnant now. After all, Matthias turns one this week (*sniff* How’d that happen?) and is crawling all over the house like a crazy person. He’s practically done raised (kidding, I’m kidding). But seriously, I’m ready to be carrying around ultrasound pictures again, feel little magic kicks in my belly, and start finalizing baby names. I love being a Mom and am looking forward to adding another little blessing to our mix.
So when I recently read my friend Tricia’s blog post about the four things she was doing to prepare for pregnancy, I felt inspired to do my own.
Before I got pregnant with my first, I was very into fitness, crunches, and the like. Because I had a good core, practically no stranger could tell I was pregnant with my first child until I was already well into my 3rd trimester. I was not faithful about restoring the ab-situation after Gabriel was born and it showed. The moment I got pregnant the second time, my left-over pooch (oh, how I hate that word) turned into a 2nd trimester-sized belly. In my first trimester, I had strangers asking when I was due. What a difference! Because my abs were weak, there were other side effects too. Back aches, sciatica, general unsteadiness starting earlier on than it should…
This time around, I’ve dusted off my old pilates videos and have been working on toning and strength training, especially on my abs. It’s already made such a difference! No more back pain, much more energy… I feel healthier than I have in months. (In my next post, I’m planning to share more details on my exercise routine, so stay tuned).
When I’m trying to get pregnant, there’s nothing more emotionally exhausting than the waiting and wondering… Am I pregnant this month? Was that a twinge of morning sickness just then? Any time I pass the 30 day mark in my calendar, I fight the impulse to go buy the more expensive, early-result pregnancy tests just because I stink at being patient. After several disappointments, I’ve come to the conclusion that early pregnancy symptoms and pre-menstrual symptoms are pretty much the same thing and I refuse to let myself get excited or disappointed until I actually know.
Charting has helped a lot with the wondering. Not only will I know my ovulation day (so we can time things right), but I also know the exact day I should be getting my yes or no answer. It’s nice to say to myself, Wednesday’s the day I should know if we’re pregnant or not! No need to wonder or stress until then.
If you’re new to this charting thing, I highly, highly recommend this book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. It covers everything from natural preventative measures to timing things right when you’re trying.
3. Freezing meals
My poor husband didn’t eat very well during my past first trimesters. He never complained, but when I was too sick to look at food, he was often left to his own devices in the kitchen. Now that we have two kiddos to feed (in addition to my husband), it’s more important that some form of dinner makes it to the table. Otherwise, we’ll all be eating microwave burritos for months.
Starting a few months ago, I’ve been doubling and freezing whatever dinner I’m already making that night. Having dinner pre-made will make life so much easier later on.
4. Kicking Caffeine
Ouch. This is a hard one. I’m usually a once-or-twice cup of coffee a day person, but from what I understand, caffeine presents a miscarriage risk in the first trimester. Since I’ve had a miscarriage in the past, I’m not risking anything this next time around. So no coffee for me, at least until my second trimester (and then only in moderation). Honestly, since I’ve (mostly) kicked the habit, I haven’t missed it as much as I feared I would. I don’t have any energy ‘highs’ anymore, but I haven’t had as many energy lows, so it balances out.
Seriously, I’ve been reading a lot (both books and online). Currently, I’ve been reading on miscarriage prevention, morning-sickness management, childbirth, child training tips for my other two, and more efficient ways of running our home so I can have more time to spend with my children and husband.
I know it’s cliché, but knowledge really is power. Now is the time to get better at this parenting, wifing, home-making thing before we add another little person to the mix.
6. Delegating more responsibilities to Gabriel.
My three-year-old is getting old enough to help out with things that are actually useful. Wonderful milestone, by the way! Some of his new delegated responsibilities include emptying the silverware from the dishwasher, setting the table for meals, and refilling the toilet paper basket. When I’m morning sick, or later on when I have a newborn, these little things are going to be even more appreciated than they are now.
7. Polishing up Obedience-Skills
There’s no doubt about it, obedient kids are easier to live with. Right now, if Gabriel keeps taking away Matthias’ toy, I can physically go and remove it from one brother and restore it to the other. Later on, when I’m feeling queasy, it will be more important that Gabriel obeys at my verbal command. It takes a little more diligence in training now, but I’m sure it will pay off in the end.
What about you? Anything you wish you had thought of beforehand? Anybody else hoping for another blessing sometime soon?