Social media has been stuffed to the brim with women drama the past few days. Abortion rights, how women are disrespected by men, abused, raped, catcalled, why they don’t get paid as much, how employers refuse to give them PAID maternity leave (ironic when paired with the previous demand), how they have to pay taxes their sanitation products, why they feel their life is so unfair and cheated at every turn. They sound so bitter, so hurting, so unloved…
I just don’t get it. Do you know why? Because I grew up with a Christian father who ALWAYS respected, protected, and cherished me. I grew up with a Christian grandfather who deeply loves, adores, and cares for his wife at every turn, and taught his sons to do the same. I grew up with a Christian father-in-law, who taught my husband how to BE A MAN by loving and protecting and honoring the women in his life (his mother, his sisters, and eventually me). I have Christian brothers who love and build up my sisters-in-law. I have dozens and dozens of Christian friends with Christian husbands, who love, provide for, and adore them. These husbands do not put them down, cheat on them, force them into ungodly submission, abuse them, catcall them, strike them, etc. Men in my community, do not use women up and throw them away afterward. Are they always perfect? Of course not. But when they stray, they repent and seek to do better. Disrespecting women is not normal or allowed.
A world where men mistreat women so fouly (though I’m not saying it doesn’t exist) seems so foreign to me.
Am I lucky? No. I’m not. Am I blessed? Yes.
Because, ladies… Hear me out on this one. If you want to be loved deeper than you could ever imagine. If you want to be protected, cared for, and cherished, find a man who would LAY HIS LIFE DOWN FOR YOU… Like Christ did. Do these men exist? They do. They really, really do. I know so many of them personally, and it’s been an honor. (Are they perfect? Of course not. But are you?)
Find yourself a Christian man. Not just someone who CALLS himself a Christian, but someone who ACTS like a Christian man should. Someone who understands the high calling of manhood and the sacrifice and rewards that entails. Someone who knows that he has to answer to GOD for how he treats you.
“Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:28-29
I know respecting your husband by default is not an American norm these days, but ladies… This sort of man is not hard to respect. It is my duty, but also my privilege.
Ladies, you won’t force men to respect you. You can’t do that by screaming at the political powers that be. You have to first be choosy of your company, and conduct yourself in such a way as to be worthy of that company.
To demand THAT sort of man, first become THAT sort of woman. But to do that, first… You’ll need Christ.